Asian American and Native Hawaiian/Pacific Islander Heritage Month pays tributes to the generations of Asians and Pacific Islanders who have enriched America’s history and are instrumental in its future success.

We’ve gathered a list of AANHPI businesses, organizations, and creatives to support and share with your community.

AANHPI-Founded or Owned Businesses

Clothing/Jewelry

Home

Makeup/Skincare/Hygiene

Food

AANHPI Creatives

Organizations Supporting AANHPI Communities

Asian/Pacific is a broad term that encompasses all of the Asian continent and the Pacific islands of Melanesia (New Guinea, New Caledonia, Vanuatu, Fiji and the Solomon Islands), Micronesia (Marianas, Guam, Wake Island, Palau, Marshall Islands, Kiribati, Nauru and the Federated States of Micronesia) and Polynesia (New Zealand, Hawaiian Islands, Rotuma, Midway Islands, Samoa, American Samoa, Tonga, Tuvalu, Cook Islands, French Polynesia and Easter Island).

From Tiffany Carlson, project and marketing manager:

I graduated NIU with a degree in marketing and have worked my way up over the years into Project Management and now Marketing Manager roles. I love the creative side of things, making visuals, writing copy, etc. But also love the detail-oriented side, planning timelines, budgets and wrangling the team to stay on track.

In my off hours I’m a big reader, I love anything to do with fashion/beauty and LOVE to travel!  I just got back from Belize where I finally snorkeled with sea turtles, and I held my first shark!

“83% of workers suffer from work-related stress.” That’s the high-level finding from Zippia. Its recent post on “40+ Worrisome Workplace Stress Statistics” went on to say that “stress at work comes in all shapes and sizes, across all types of industries and careers.”

Are you feeling a bit edgy or fatigued on the job, afterwards or beforehand? Are you having trouble sleeping? Experiencing skin breakouts, muscle soreness, irritability, mood swings, decreased productivity, or headaches?

There could be many reasons for these symptoms. But the American Institute of Stress pinpoints one that may cause any or all of them. “Numerous studies confirm that occupational pressures and fears are far and away the leading source of stress for American adults.” Take heed. Stress may be the root problem. And it’s been and continues to be on the rise.

So let’s take action to blunt the effects of occupational stress. May is the perfect time to put a plan in motion in observance of Mental Health Month. To get started, try this list of strategies. Several can be done at your desk. Others are appropriate for lunchtime, during break, before or after work or any time. Some may surprise you, but all are surprisingly effective.

Approach things differently

Want to reset your brain, temporarily disrupt your routine, and relieve stress in the process? Go against the grain, as in do the contrary. The following ideas are among “25 Weird Breaks for Stress Relief” and, according to the author of this post, they “clear my head.” One category is to “try to do anything from the opposite side.” That includes writing your name with your non-dominant hand because “you have to focus very hard” and it “takes you out of your stressed out state.” The same goes for “putt[ing] a golf ball from the opposite side.” More? Count backwards and walk backwards (be careful with this one!). Another is to rearrange your desk; move things from one side to the other. Switch it up for one day.

Engage in sound healing

Sound healing is a hot trend now, rooted in sacred science of bygone eras in China, Egypt, Greece, India, and Tibet. The process “uses instruments to create a vibration that releases energy, passing a state of ease and harmony to you.” This ancient method reduces stress and tension “by assisting the brain waves to come back to a state of mindfulness.” If you relax by listening to music, you are, in essence, practicing sound healing. To experience it formally, seek out sessions in your area led to specialty practitioners. And you can also consider being your own sound healer. “Three Ways to Use Music and Sound for Self-Healing” offers tips. Select and use Tibetan bowls and engage in vocal healing via chanting, humming, or singing or create a self-healing playlist,

Get hooked on knitting

What does Olympic gold medal winning diver Tom Daley do to combat stress at competitions? He knits. Actor Russell Crowe of Gladiator fame does so too. This first post reports: “Surveys of knitters and crocheters have found that significant numbers of them do their craft as a way to deal with daily stress.” There must be something to that. According to “The Health Benefits of Knitting,” the Craft Yarn Council created a campaign to “Stitch Away Stress.” Plus, Dr. Herbert Benson, author of The Relaxation Response, says that “the repetitive action of needlework can induce a relaxed state like that associated with meditation and yoga.” It reduces heart rate and blood pressure as well as the stress hormone cortisol.

Massage your ear

Use this traditional Chinese medicine technique at any time anywhere. Find the Shen Men or “The Gate of Heaven” on your outer ear and gently rub it. “Massaging the Shen Men — pressure point situated in the upper third of your ear — reportedly strengthens your overall health, decreases stress, and boosts energy.” While massaging this spot, breathe deeply. “When you inhale, look to the left, and look to the right when exhaling.” If you have difficulty locating the Shen Men, massage the lobe and then move your fingers up around the outer part of the ear in that same motion. Alternatively, you may prefer to stick to an earlobe massage. “Earlobe massage is an excellent way to release tension in the body. Individuals can do this by gently forming small circles with the thumb and index fingers on the earlobe.”

Take a gratitude inventory

Inspired by advice given to him by his doctor, Irving Berlin wrote: “When I’m worried and I can’t sleep, I count my blessings instead of sheep, And I fall asleep counting my blessings. When my bankroll is getting small, I think of when I had none at all, And I fall asleep counting my blessings.” That is the opening to the classic song “Count Your Blessings.” And it represents a method to relieve stress — stock up on gratitude. “The Benefits of Cultivating Gratitude for Stress Relief” points out: “Cultivating gratitude is one of the simpler routes to a greater sense of emotional well-being, higher overall life satisfaction, and a greater sense of happiness in life.” It suggests making gratitude lists and keeping a gratitude journal. Hungry for gratitude? Watch a YouTube video on how to “Create a Gratitude Sandwich.”

Do QiGong

What is QiGong? That’s what I wondered when I first heard the term. First I researched; then I tried it. Now I am hardly alone in recommending it for many reasons, including stress reduction. “The Stress-Relieving Benefits of QiGong” explains: “QiGong (pronounced: chē-gung) is an ancient Chinese practice designed to promote healing in the body, balance in the mind and calming in the spirit. This technique involves simple meditation, controlled breathing and low-intensity movement exercises.” In “Reduce Your Stress with QiGong,” a leading practitioner shows how to release the restorative powers of this practice. He states that you don’t need any equipment or special clothing to do the required stretching and shaking. Ready to start? Follow the short YouTube video “3 Simple QiGong Exercises for Fast and Natural Stress Relief.”

Color

Remember how much you enjoyed coloring when you were a youngster? Relive those times now. Per the renowned Cleveland Clinic, coloring is “not just for children anymore.” Its post on “3 Reasons Adult Coloring Can Actually Relax Your Brain” lays it all out. A physician notes that coloring focuses your attention on the task at hand and “away from yourself (and those things that are stressing you out!).” WebMD adds to this. “Coloring can also improve your brain’s ability to function. When you’re coloring, different parts of your brain’s cerebral hemisphere are activated. When you choose what colors to use, your creativity is activated. As you color forms and shapes, your logic is also activated.” So get in on the adult coloring book craze; it’s for your health and enjoyment.

Practice Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR)

PMR has been helping people for about 100 years. This strategy isolates muscles in your body on a rolling basis. First you slowly tighten a set of muscles; then you release the pressure. This process acquaints you with how tension feels; it enables you not only recognize the physical manifestations of stress, but also to relieve it and know the difference between the two states. The Mayo Clinic outlines the process. One way to start is “by tensing and relaxing the muscles in your toes and progressively working you way up to your neck and head.” You also can reverse the order from top to bottom. Either way: “Tense your muscles for about five seconds and then relax for 30 seconds, and repeat.” Interested? Spend about six minutes with a YouTube video led by a psychologist at Johns Hopkins School of Medicine. It’s instructive and soothing.

Garden

Sciencefocus.com reports: “Gardening just twice a week improves wellbeing and relieves stress.” WebMD concurs with this concept. “Gardening can make you feel more peaceful and content.” It adds that the “immediate tasks and details of gardening can reduce negative thoughts and feelings and can make you feel better in the moment. Just spending time around plants eases stress for many people.” Forbes weighs in too in “How Gardening Can Fight Stress and Improve Your Life.” It points out: “There’s so much to see and do in a garden. Rather than dwelling on the challenges you’re facing or the lengthy to-do list waiting for you, give yourself permission to live in the moment. Notice the birds chirping, the gentle breeze and aromatic scent of soil and vegetation.” Don’t have a garden? Set one up on your window sill or seek out a community space.

Tap dance

“Step-ball change, step-ball change!” This is how Dr. Gilda Carle, Corporate Relationship Strategist and author of My Rants & Ramblings Journal begins to describe tap dancing for stress relief. “When I arrive at the dance studio, my mind is laden with experiences of my day. But as soon as I’m in class, tap dancing blocks everything out.” Dance is therapeutic in many ways but tap dancing adds other dimensions. “The stomps and stamps, blasting music, rhythmic clicking and intricate choreography magically make the world’s indignities vanish and I become stress free!” What if you don’t have tap shoes or don’t want to invest in a class? Equip and explore on your own. Convert your sneakers or regular shoes to tap shoes or find discount starter shoes on Amazon or somewhere similar. Then head over to YouTube to experiment with one video, another and many others.

What’s the main takeaway from this listicle? There are many avenues to explore to push away the irritations of life. Understand that it’s not a one-and-done situation. Do them regularly and, above all, enjoy the process and the benefits you derive.

 

About the author. 
You name it, she covers it. That’s the can-do attitude Sherry M. Adler brings to the craft of writing. A polished marketing and communications professional, she has a passion for learning and the world at large. She uses it plus the power of words to inform and energize stakeholders of all kinds. And to show how all of this can make a difference, she calls her business WriteResults NY, LLC. 

Mother’s Day conjures images of flowers and fancy brunches, but what might be joyful for some may be deeply triggering for others. Some folks have lost parents or children, some are struggling with fertility issues, loss, or miscarriage, while others may have a painful or estranged relationship with their mothers.

Knowing what to say to a friend who is coping with loss and grief can feel hard (and sometimes awkward). Experts recommend putting aside the platitudes and keeping it real. It can be a breath of fresh air for someone experiencing heartache to engage in authentic conversation — real talk can be really powerful.

If you have a friend who’s struggling with Mother’s Day and want to offer support, here are a few gentle ways to help.

Suggest a social media hiatus
Encourage your friend to hit pause on their social channels on the days leading up to and after Mother’s Day. It can be triggering to see all the loving photos and posts for someone struggling with the holiday. Muting social media for a few days will help them avoid a potentially upsetting barrage of Mother’s Day messages.

Honor their grief
If your friend is grieving on Mother’s Day, ask if there is a way you can help honor their loved one together. It could be something as simple as lighting a candle for them or doing something that they love like taking a walk on the beach.

Be present
Ask your friend “how are you today?” By adding ‘today’ you give the signal that you want to listen to how they’re actually doing and that it’s safe to open up. Show up for your friend by letting them know that you’re there. Be that friend who keeps checking in.

Listen
When we struggle with difficult emotions, having someone listen and be a sounding board can really help. Reach out and ask your friend how they feel. Give them the grace and space to share their frustrations and grief. The opportunity to disclose feelings and feel heard can make all the difference.

Let your friend know you’re thinking of them
Give your friend a simple note or card acknowledging how tough the holiday may be — it’s a simple gesture that’s meaningful.

Make plans
Ask your friend how they want to mark the day and take their lead. If they’re open to it, help your friend stay active and distracted. Join them in an activity that they love and keep the focus on being present in the moment.

Be a support, not a fix
The feelings and emotions your friend is working through don’t have an expiration date. Strive to support your friend in how they choose to spend this Mother’s Day rather than “fix” how they are feeling.

About the author. 

An award-winning creator and digital health, wellness, and lifestyle content strategist—Karina writes, produces, and edits compelling content across multiple platforms—including articles, video, interactive tools, and documentary film. Her work has been featured on MSN Lifestyle, Apartment Therapy, Goop, Psycom, Yahoo News, Pregnancy & Newborn, Eat This Not That, thirdAGE, and Remedy Health Media digital properties and has spanned insight pieces on psychedelic toad medicine to forecasting the future of work to why sustainability needs to become more sustainable. 

 

From Kitty Snyder, designer and writer:

I was once a purposeful but meandering fish with varying sea changes, as the currents carried me over time: as the daughter of a successful Fisher Price toy designer, then as a young English grad and songwriter, then as a longtime commercial and video producer, and now as a professional designer and copywriter. But in retrospect, it’s all been under the same sunlit surface: storytelling. 

After a solo trip to Italy just weeks before the pandemic, I returned invigorated and wanting to tell stories even more deeply. I realized that as an empath, the practice of UX/UI is a natural fit in my career. I find my happiest work is with projects that make a difference: mental health issues, DEI, environmental issues. I also believe we can find purpose in just about anything; we just have to dig profoundly and breathe life into it.

What is my ideal project? One whereby we discover your unique story together, and I help bring your brand and journey to life. Web design, branding, presentation decks, blogs, marketing design, copywriting/editing; anything using captivating imagery and words. And with my background in producing, I pride myself in being a great communicator during each project.

Thank you, Creative Circle; it’s an honor to be on your roster!

“Out of sight, out of mind” is an adage from centuries ago that lives on today. Merriam-Webster defines it as when “a person stops thinking about something or someone if he or she does not see that thing or person for a period of time.” I had this concern about 25 years ago, when I applied to my then employer’s new program for split in-office and home-based work. I worried: would not being in the office full-time jeopardize my career? As a self-supporting single mother, I considered the pros and cons of this three days in and two days at home arrangement. But family took precedence, and in all, I appreciated the opportunity to take part in this initiative.

Fast forward to the 2020s and the disruption of life caused by the pandemic. COVID-19 changed the way many of us work and where that takes place. Those whose roles lent themselves to it moved from the office to a home work environment during the early stages of the pandemic. Since then, firms zigged and zagged on what to do and if/how to bring employees back as various variants emerged. At the time of this writing, most employees remain ingrained in their home office. However, companies are starting to summon their troops to return to the fold. That may take the form of full-time in-office but, more commonly, a mix of office and home.

As these categories emerged, so did terms to describe them. Welcome to “remote work,” “working from home,” or simply “WFH.” The “hybrid work model” pertains to an alternating office-home format. This blended design has become so popular that the World Economic Forum suggests “Hybrid working is here to stay.”

To remote and hybrid add the traditional in-office group. All together, they conjure up a phrase that brings us to where this post began. It evokes the same potential fears I once experienced, but with a new world twist.

And that is “proximity bias.”

“The Road to the Top Is Paved with Being There” — Jack Welch, former CEO of GE

In one of his hits, singer/songwriter Stephen Stills underscored the value of being front and center. He mused about what to do “if you can’t be with the one you love.” His suggestion: “Love The One You’re With.” In the broadest sense, this theme refers to the role proximity plays in our lives. That includes the business world and our office lives. It raises a point fundamental to this post: will those in plain sight fare better in the eyes of their employers than those who are WFH and on hybrid schedules?

That’s the gist of proximity bias. The BBC explains. “Proximity bias is an unconscious — and unwise — tendency to give preferential treatment to those in our immediate vicinity. Once a matter of who is based at HQ and who works at a regional office, the definition of proximity in today’s business world is evolving.”

Studies show that people who are present receive more favorable treatment. What happens to those who are offsite? They may lose out. “Unintentionally excluding remote workers from the most high-profile projects, insights, and relationship-building mitigates their chances to qualify for promotions, among other career and networking opportunities,” reports Globalization Partners.

Additionally, firms may fail to hire the best employees by favoring candidates who attend interviews in person. The same principle applies to business decisions; communications factor into proximity bias too. For example, the views of those at the table at meetings may predominate and drown out what could be valuable input from others. “As a result, projects move more slowly because mistakes are made and misunderstandings arise.”

Do In-Office Optics Rule?

Can this happen to you or occur at your company? A word used in the previous section to describe the extent of proximity bias offers a clue: “prevalent.” Smack dab in the headline of a post on Bloomberg.com is a more pointed glimpse: “Bosses Admit to ‘Proximity Bias.” The content gets right to it. “Among the biggest worries that executives have about remote work is a phenomenon known as ‘proximity bias,’ meaning that the people who choose to return to offices will get ahead, while those who stay at home will fall behind.”

This same news story lays out proximity bias by the numbers. A survey by Future Forum, commissioned by Slack, explored this matter. The group engaged a sample of more than 10,000 white-collar workers. What were the top-line results? “More than four out of 10 executives ranked the potential inequities between remote and in-office employees as their number one concern.”

It also shines a light on another angle of this problem. “Women and minority workers are more likely than other groups to want to stay home, adding to fears that the return to office push could further exacerbate workplace inequalities.”

Note “inequities” and “inequalities” in the quotes. They are contrary to diversity and inclusion priorities. Will proximity bias thwart them? A Future Forum executive draws attention to this possibility. “Companies have to understand that their diversity efforts and their future of work plans are going to be linked,” he says.

“Proximity bias disproportionately affects certain groups of workers, including working mothers, those in lower cost-of-living areas, and those with disabilities,” reports Ring Central.

How Companies Can Conquer Proximity Bias

Don’t turn a blind eye. Proximity bias exists, and it’s not going away on its own. “As with addressing most biases, the solution isn’t to avoid the challenge, but to determine the best path to solve those challenges in a systematic way.” That’s the advice from Globalization Partners. They add: “With proximity bias in the workplace, the solution is not to bring everyone back to the office, but to build guidelines and operating models that address this particular challenge, and account for distributed teams during both the big decision-making conversations and the small.”

Here are some of the ways:

Start by being aware

The first step in overcoming any difficulty is to know it exists. Next comes owning up to it. Then you’re poised to do something constructive. “Be aware of it,” recommends Qlearsite.com, “and make others aware; educate yourself and other managers about proximity bias, so it’s top of mind.”

Train leadership

The reference to education above introduces the need for a full cycle of learning. That process entails training managers to understand the arc of proximity bias, including fine points. It engages them in developing action plans. The focus should be on ways to prevent this from happening. But it also includes backtracking to rectify the situation that may exist.

Frame and stipulate

Put in place new principles and policies for work. Then share them with employees. Take a tip from How Proximity Bias Affects the Hybrid Workplace from Thought Exchange. “On an organizational level, leaders need to be clear about what they are doing to minimize bias. This should include company-specific expectations about when and where work gets done and an outline of the process that explains how workers will be recognized and promoted.”

Reformulate productivity

“Eliminating proximity bias will require a rethink of how we approach remote work.” This is where metrics come into play. “Proximity bias: the next big challenge for hybrid and remote work” explains. “For years, many managers focused on superficial productivity indicators such as time-in-seats over qualitative measures that reflect actual work. Reversing proximity bias requires a shift …about what productivity looks like (and doesn’t look like).”

Apply technology

Proximity bias: how to avoid excluding hybrid workers” offers a checklist to turn the tide. Firms should up their technology spend. How? With “better videoconferencing systems, interactive whiteboards and survey solutions for regular check-ins.”

Thought Exchange touts tech too. “Bring everyone into the same (virtual) room, even if only as individual rectangles on a screen” via video conferencing. And “for organizations that will maintain an office, set the requirement that everyone dials in from their desk.” For a live session, forward an agenda in advance to solicit ideas; and be sure to use collaboration software. What’s an informal tool to guard against proximity bias? Instant messaging. And an Enterprise Discussion Management (EDM) platform “offers a way to scale meaningful conversations across your entire organization digitally.”

Go top-down

Leading by Example” comes from Fast Company. “Leaders need to show that remote working is viable and attainable.” Do so by modeling behavior — work at home at times in a way that’s visible, such as holding meetings from that venue. Ring Central reinforces this notion. “Leveling the playing field for hybrid workers means embracing this new workplace model at all levels of the business. Executives should also work hybrid schedules in order to eliminate any stigma from working from home and to send a message that remote work is valid and valued.”

Take a full roll call

Preventing Proximity Bias in Hybrid Work Is Key to Closing Equity Gaps” takes on the equity issue. To set parameters for remote work, get feedback from all employees. Don’t make decisions without it. “If critical voices are not part of discussions that impact the entire company, leaders risk alienating a huge portion of their talent pool.” An HR exec suggests: “Companies need to evaluate their inclusiveness and build in processes designed to level things up between remote and office workers.”

Assign a dedicated resource

Proximity bias is real. Returning to the office could make it worse” is the headline in a post on Protocol.com. But it offers remedies. One is to install a person to lead remote operations. “It needs to be someone’s job to create equitability and work to make the workplace inclusive and work against proximity bias.”

Employees: Listen Up

What can employees on WFH and hybrid schedules do to try to shield themselves from the effects of proximity bias? Pulling from my own experience, I offer the following points.

  • Be readily available and amenable.
  • Speak up; offer your feedback and constructive ideas.
  • Communicate clearly, constructively, and regularly, but not unnecessarily or annoyingly.
  • Provide your insights and especially your services.
  • Volunteer for projects.
  • Let it be known you are interested in taking on challenges and responsibilities.

Is proximity bias inevitable? If not recognized and grappled with directly, it may be. But as this post shows, there is much recent content available on this topic. That’s a good thing. Use it; bring it to the attention of influencers and decision makers. And do your part in keeping proximity bias at bay.

About the author.
You name it, she covers it. That’s the can-do attitude Sherry M. Adler brings to the craft of writing. A polished marketing and communications professional, she has a passion for learning and the world at large. She uses it plus the power of words to inform and energize stakeholders of all kinds. And to show how all of this can make a difference, she calls her business WriteResults NY, LLC. 

The Evolution of Feminism 

What does it mean to be a feminist today? We have a long way from the days of suffragettes and Rosie the Riveter. Of bra burning and free love. From first wave to third wave to intersectionality, we’ve learned lessons and won victories along the way. Women in the United States won the vote (1920), can open our own bank accounts (1960s), and are recognizing the intersections of class, race, privilege, and gender identity in this struggle for… what exactly? 

The issue with broad movements is that without a specific ask, it’s hard to know whether you identify with the movement or not. The general understanding of feminism changed sometime in the ‘80s and ‘90s. Suddenly, radical thinkers were out and corporate feminism was in, although it didn’t get that name until later. We were no longer trying to change the system, but please let us have a slice of the patriarchal pie, thank you. 

Now, much of feminism is capitalist. We have T-shirts and slogans and very expensive scarves, saying words that have been stripped of their meaning, their authors nothing but relics in the wind: 

The Future Is Female | Girl Power | Unite Women | Well-Behaved Women Seldom Make History | Woman Up | Smash the Patriarchy | Sisterhood | We Should All Be Feminists 

Corporate Feminism 

Corporate feminism says that anything that puts women in power is feminist. We’ve waited long enough for a seat at the table; now it’s time to do whatever it takes to get more of us there. This is the feminism of SheEOs and the #girlboss, but is replacing men with a fair share of women really the way to an equitable society? 

That wasn’t a real question. Of course it’s not. Capitalism may have coopted #feminism, but you can’t smash the patriarchy by simply throwing matriarchs in men’s places of power. The point is not to pull up a seat to the table. The point is to get rid of the table. The point is liberation. Which is different from freedom, but we’ll get to that. 

Since the pandemic began, we have seen the fall of the girl boss. While Nasty Gal founder and author of #Girlboss Sofia Amooruso had a limited run of success, Nasty Gal went under like lead in a pool. In her 2020 Atlantic piece, The Girlboss Has Left the Building, Amanda Mull explained, “Like Sheryl Sandbergs self-help hit Lean In before it, #Girlboss argued that the professional success of ambitious young women was a two-birds-one-stone type of activism: Their pursuit of power could be rebranded as a righteous quest for equality, and the success of female executives and entrepreneurs would lift up the women below them.”  

But that didn’t happen, and it never will. Like the boybosses before them, the only person that particular kind of power helps is the person wielding it. 

 

Why I Am Not a Feminist 

Somewhere along the way, feminism became trendy and the real message got lost. Suddenly, women wanted to embrace the title without stepping too far out of the mainstream. In 2017, Jesse Crispin published an incredible piece of feminist writing called Why I Am Not a Feminist: A Feminist Manifesto. In it, she scoffs at the young feminists who have become almost apologists for feminism, distancing themselves from radicals like Andrea Dworkin. She’s talking to the aforementioned aspiring girlbosses. Crispin explains candidly, Asking for a system that was built for the express purpose of oppression to um, please stop oppressing me?’ is nonsense work. The only task worth doing is fully dismantling and replacing that system.” 

A problem with the broad idea of feminism is that women have different wants and needs, and the public face of the movement somehow turned into upper middle class educated women, usually white, always ambitious. And these women look down upon working class women who would rather find safety in marriage and homemaking than work in grueling conditions. 

The house might be a prison, but when freedom looks like wiping up someone else’s vomit and urine under migraine-inducing fluorescent lighting, can you actually blame someone for asking to be let back into their cell? 

She goes on to explain how the feminist trajectory exemplified individual freedom over community support, family, marriage, and other structures, leaving us as individuals without the aid or assistance of others because we should be able to do it on our own. How very American, and a lovely parallel to our current public health crisis, but that is an analysis for another time.  

Certainly, there are intersectional lenses of feminism that value community support. Such as the feminism of women of color, like the late bell hooks who asked us to imagine more in Feminism is for Everybody: Passionate Politics: Imagine living in a world where there is no domination, where females and males are not alike or even always equal, but where a vision of mutuality is the ethos shaping our interaction.” But that is not the feminism that has been sold in stores and seminars. That’s not the feminism of lucrative book deals. The mainstream narrative has pushed independence. This means freedom, I suppose but that is not the same as liberation. Crispin asks: 

 

How are women faring in the job market compared to men? Does that really matter when due to overwhelming student loans debt, sharply decreased job stability, the gutting of social services and work benefits, rapacious CEOs and boards of directors, and globalization, the world of work and money is hurting everyone? 

 

Feminism, Community Development, and Worker Reform 

The history of feminism is intimately tied to worker reform. The establishment of a federal minimum wage in 1938 was actually the first step in bridging the gender pay gap, at least on an hourly basis. But as Karina Margit Erdelyi points out, there are plenty of places where the gap remains. And then there’s domestic labor and the labor of childbirth and childrearing, which is unpaid and yet essential to the functioning of our society.  

But that’s not the only labor women performed for free. Before women entered the workforce en masse, particularly during and after World War II, women who could afford leisure time thanks to their husbands’ or families’ money were pivotal leaders in philanthropy and community building, even laying the foundation of the social work profession. But today, communities, schools, and children have suffered because that pivotal element of volunteer community organization no longer happens. Women have fewer hours in the day for volunteering. They’re too busy at work. Now there are organizations like nonprofits where women can get paid for the labor of service, but women only make up 43% of leadership in these organizations — despite making up the majority of leadership when their philanthropy was an unpaid service. 

In Silvia Federici’s Caliban and the Witch: Women, the Body, and Primitive Accumulation, she draws complex lines between witch hunts, the exploitation of women’s unpaid domestic labor, the Trans-Atlantic slave trade, and the rise of capitalism: 

…capitalism, as a social-economic system, is necessarily committed to racism and sexism. For capitalism must justify and mystify the contradictions built into its social relations — the promise of freedom vs. the reality of widespread coercion, and the promise of prosperity vs. the reality of widespread penury — by denigrating the “nature” of those it exploits: women, colonial subjects, the descendants of African slaves, the immigrants displaced by globalization. 

So how do we say Girl Power and Black Lives Matter in the face of all that? 

This is an extreme view that I’m sure plenty of folks may not be 100% on board with, but it does force us to think about the implications of systems and the ways that we participate in them. There may be a way that the capitalist grind can overcome oppression. It may be obvious to some. It may not be necessary to others, which is part of the problem. 

Feminism is fragmented because many women come from complex backgrounds and a variety of belief systems. Not all women are feminists, and they shouldn’t have to be. Not all women are united under the intersectional lens because, despite their own intersectional identities, not all women think the same way. 

Facing the Truth of Biology and Work 

Growing up in the ‘90s, I was fed the narrative that I could do anything a man could do. That not letting my womanhood get in the way of success was essential. As an adult, I realize that is not equality. That is not equity. The fact is women get periods. Women get pregnant. We create life, birth it, and are more often than not the primary caregivers to this offspring. And without those things, our species would die out. Many developed countries have begun to acknowledge that and make sick time available for menstruators with painful cramps. They have generous parental leave policies that include fathers, which ultimately lessens gender discrimination as it encourages both parents to take leave from work. But that is not the case in the United States, which is a big problem. 

I’ll admit, a lot of this is personal. I’ve been a competent student and professional my entire life, but now I am also pregnant and tired. I am nauseous and fatigued and in pain a lot of the time, but I still feel the pressure of showing up and getting my work done and not losing the strides I’ve made for myself in my career. I haven’t felt good in over two months, and my question is this: Is pregnancy that awful, or am I just asking too much of a body that is trying to build a human?  

Because right now, I don’t feel capable and strong and powerful, but maybe that’s because I’m coming up short within a paradigm that doesn’t support the functions of my body. I don’t know what the right answer is when it comes to creating a more equitable society, but I do know that the emotional and mental tolls of living in a female body have been immense. 

I’m not the only one that feels that way. In 2012,  Ann-Marie Slaughter wrote Why Women Still Can’t Have It All. In this deeply personal and poignant piece, she explores the issue of having ambition while wanting to care for your children. Maybe, she hesitatingly suggests, many of us actually want to have the flexibility to be home with our kids. And if we’re a nation that values family, why don’t our policies reflect that? 

I felt resistance turning this discussion about feminism into a discussion about pregnancy and childrearing, but the fact of the matter is that our anatomy and the blessings and curses of it are at the focal point of our oppression. (That’s why birth control and abortion access was and is such a massive deal when it comes to women’s rights.) Let me introduce you to a term I recently learned: the feminization of poverty. This term refers to how the burden of pregnancy and childrearing and life events like divorce affect women overall more than men and worsen their economic situation.  

Not only that, but there is such a thing as the “motherhood penalty” and the “fatherhood reward” when it comes to employment. According to research by sociologist Sherry J. Correll, mothers make 4% less per child while fathers make 6% more. And when the burden of childcare falls on mothers, hiring managers looking out for their bottom line will of course choose a mother last for a job or promotion. During the pandemic we experienced a “she-cession” as many mothers bowed out of the workforce to care for their children who were no longer in school.  

Further evidence of the disregard with which we treat working mothers is that the United States has higher maternal mortality rates than other developed nations. This is often attributed to having less paid leave. 

Until parental responsibilities are equally distributed, this kind of discrimination will not stop. That can’t happen until all parents are awarded parental leave, which has been shown to help even the burden and reduce stigma against working mothers in other developing countries. It also improves maternal health and decreases infant mortality. 

It’s not just about putting more women in leadership roles or eliminating the gender pay gap, but about addressing an entire system built on our unpaid labor. A system that needs and adulates mothers while simultaneously punishing them. 

What Can I Do? 

Here are a few simple initiatives that companies can take to alleviate some of the burden: 

  • Prioritize diversity, equity and inclusion by understanding unconscious bias, and not only recruiting with that in mind but also when making promotions and leadership hires. 
  • Offer generous parental leave that includes both parents so that the burden and stigma of time off does not solely fall on mothers.  
  • Include employee resource groups and offerings for community organizations both internally and externally. Maybe even offer paid time off for charity work. 
  • Vote for policies that support women, children, and families. That includes access to education, contraception, medical services, community support, and financial support for low-income families. 
  • Imagine a future that values cooperation over competition, and implement those values in your organization. 

About the author. 
Alessandra is the mentor, educator, and writer behind Boneseed, a private practice devoted to deep self-inquiry through a range of physical, energetic, and mental modalities. She has over 500 hours of yoga, mentorship, and facilitation training and can be found slinging knowledge on her website, newsletter, and @bone.seed.